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Hi everyone. This is Lee, and it's been such a long time since I've spoken on Facebook. So I've been so busy over the last week. I've released my new course, and I've been really busy looking after my participants on the course and also developing new content as always as I am always doing. But today I wanted to really take some time out and ask you, do you know, the single one thing, the big change lever that if you get this right, it'll help you to rewrite all your self, self limiting beliefs, this one secret one thing. So I'm going to talk a bit about that today and reveal that for you as well. So keep tuned in. So it was pretty exciting. So first of all, let's have a little bit of a chat about how limiting beliefs can stop you and hold you from getting the results that you want to as well.

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So I think most of us know now have good understanding that between the years of zero to eight, most of our beliefs are formed and, and they formed in, past conditioning. And those past conditioning things are things like, you know, from our parents when we're very young and we're growing up and we're getting taught how to recognize objects and call them names. And we'd listen to our mum at night when we're asleep at bed. And if they're fighting for example, but mum and dad were fighting and they fought all the time. I had a belief then that if you're in a relationship, you fight a lot because this is what I'm conditioned to. So all these conditions happen to us when we're growing up. And then we, then obviously then we move into our schooling the very first day we go to school and we're scared.

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And, and, you know, are we going to be, are we going to make a friend today or are we going to be sitting by ourself, you know, um, eating your lunch by yourself. So there's conditioning about the schools, how our peers and people with as well, which is our social conditioning as well. And of course it gets more complicated on that. You know, we have our religion, we have our culture, we have the media when all was growing up, you know, often you'd see the girly, girly pictures of the beautiful, you know, beautiful women that were had the beautiful body, beautiful scheme. And, um, you know, a lot of, um, as we all know today, one of the things that a lot of young people have, and I suppose even older people do, they have not a very healthy way of thinking about their body to think we're going to be a certain way.

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So all of these are beliefs and conditionings. So how this, how this works of art as we go through our mind. So I want you to think about, we have external reinforces now external reinforces is the data that we see. So, Inow, I'm walking around or looking at something and I can only take in about a five to seven bits per second because my brain will just, just fry and get really overwhelmed and what I see and what I hear and what I, smell, what I, I listened to what I touch, you know, what I taste all of these are all our senses and using all of our senses. We can filter out the things that we focus on and the things that we don't focus on. So lots of times, if we're looking for the negative, we'll find the negative because we're looking for those filters.

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We're looking for that information to actually show us what's going on. So we take in this data by the external reinforces out in front of us, it goes quickly into our thought, our thought pattern. So we have our own perception around that, how we feel in our body around that, you know, do we, is it a positive emotion or is it a negative emotion? So if I see a dog and when I was growing up and the dog bit me or attacked me or whatever, I would associate my feelings from my archives from my past, by my past conditioning, that dog's bite. So therefore I'm very careful when I approach that dog and, and I've, and I've trained myself that when I approached the dog or I let the dog smell the back of my hand first, everything else. So I've learned all these ways to overcome that by being proactive, in learning new ways.

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So I don't automatically do the fight or flight syndrome, but if I was growing up with a dog that had pet dogs around me and no dog is ever hurt me, I may rush into the dog and start hugging strange dogs and things like that. And I could set myself up also to be bitten because our dogs may not be used to kids or things like that as well. So anyway, all of this happens automatically, depending on our past conditioning as how we perceive the external event that's happening in front of us. So then we go through an automatic thinking a thought process. So I was automating a quickly with judging. We're interpreting, we're doing everything so fast. And lots of times we're doing it on an unconscious level. So we mixing it, our thoughts and our feelings. And of course our actions are directly related to our feelings.

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And then our actions give us a results that we get. And then when we look at the results, we store some new archives up in there. Yeah. Hopefully success, but it might be failure as well. So this happens so quickly and it happens so fast that until we become, start using self awareness and self reflection. We, we're not even consciously aware of it. And this is where a lot of people do things and not even consciously aware we need to stop a lever. We need to have a change lever in there to interrupt us, to interrupt our pattern of automation. If that pattern is not leading us to the direction that we want to go to. So if we've got something like, say for example, I got automatic response. If a car comes in front of me or jump out of the way now, I want to keep that I need that an instant response to protect me and need, I need that.

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But if I'm talking to someone who's having a difficult conversation or talking to people out there and they're pushing my buttons and I'll respond back automatically about thinking, Oh, I get really angry. And I start saying things about him thinking, well, of course that's not beneficial for me. That's based on my conditioning, based on my beliefs, based on how I feel. I'm being treated based on everything in the past, and I'm not responding and I'm reacting. And obviously that's going to damage the relationship because now I've got to clean everything up. I've got apologize. Hopefully, hopefully I've got to apologize and try and get things on, on track again, because it's okay to have an argument. It's okay, but it's not okay to talk to someone disrespectfully. So my lever, my change lever, I have to get used to doing this. I'm going to change that automatic thinking to that reactive, reactive response.

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And I'm going to change that. And I'm going to start to interrupt my pattern. And I'm going to start to look at rational thinking, or I'm going to start to look at reflective thinking. So the reflective thinking is the best way to go. Because when you do reflective thinking, you're thinking about, yeah, you're stopping yourself. You're holding yourself. You're feeling those emotions coming up. And if you can't communicate without emotion, then it's good. It's great to have a way to actually say, listen, I need to have a few minutes to get my thoughts together or something like that to, to walk away from that situation, regain your composure, regained the thoughts of how you're going to put forward your, your language and your conversation. So you can adapt to the different personality types. So straightaway. What we're doing is when we walk away, we're doing reflective thinking, we're looking at, okay, how can I keep myself calm?

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How can I keep myself poised, you know, this personality type, you know, do that like information quickly, or do they want to be relationship? And we, padded all around and all this information I need to know so that I can quickly then switch very fast from the automatic thinking into judging the, the current situation, interpreting the best response to get the results I want out of that. And then of course in my feelings going to be empowered. So I'm not reactive. You know, my actions are going to be someone who's empowered and someone who can hold their ground and speak with confidence and assertiveness. And also then our results are going to be that person's going to respect you more because you're showing them respect. First, we're going to create some new archives and we're going to get more evidence. And this is how we're going to go through and re and re uh, rejuggle, reprogram our thoughts.

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So we become powerful women within leadership. So listen, I've created a link above me. So the link above me, it's all about banishing self limiting beliefs. I'm going to give you guys a lot of information. If you jump on board into my online email community, it's the stuff like this like little worksheets and you know, and things like this to help you to work through the process as well. So, and the best thing is to when you jump in my community on my email list, you know, if you can unsubscribe, anytime that you want to, that is that is but jump on there and start to grab some of this amazing information that I give out freely. Cause I want to serve my email community as well. So love to see your thoughts, love to hear what you thought about the video.

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Please comment below. Sometimes it gets lonely talking to myself and I like the interaction as well. So hoping you really enjoyed today's session. So remember just recap. One more time. The external, the external trigger or the external elements, they trigger us automatically into our past. We look at archives are our perceptions are everything else. We go through our thinking. So hopefully now we're going to interrupt our automatic thinking and we're going to interpret, and we're going to sit down and judge it. I'm going to look at what's a better way to actually approach this. We do a pattern interrupt in that area of thinking. Then we move through to our feelings feeling empowered, and then we get the, uh, you know, the actions that we want to take. We get the results and we then become the woman who can, who's a unique, has a voice of your own. And when a hurricane comes, you're still left standing. Hope you enjoy to say session, talk again very soon. Take care. Bye.

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About the Author Lee Stemm

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