Overcome Fear

This morning I spoke with one of my coaching clients who was once again overwhelmed with her job. I asked what had changed with her role or the company. And although there was a shift, the shift was not enough to warrant the stress she was now feeling. When we explored the situation, we uncovered an unfounded fear of losing her job.

This fear, I believe, was generated by her closing in on her dream outside of work and she is frightened she may fail - or actually succeed. You see she really wanted to start up her own business, but was fearful of failure.

The fog of fear enveloped her, masquerading as overwhelming stress. The result is the same: exhaustion, cloudy thinking, inability to hope, and being stuck. When we exposed the fear and decided it is not what she wants to feel, the fog began to lift.

To release fear it is not necessary to determine where the fear came from. Knowing that the fear came from this or that childhood experience is unnecessary. Knowing simply what triggers the fear is all you need.

 Once you know the trigger and can recognize when you are triggered, you are now enabled to release the fear. Instead of feeding your fear, focus on how you want to feel. What feels free? What feels clear? What feels empowering? Feed those feelings and notice the power of your fear reducing.

If your fear is strong, look to the facts. Think of three reasons why your fear is unfounded. Recount examples from your life or those you know which show your fear is untrue. Use your logic to counter the illogical fear keeping you stuck.

It’s unlikely you have any issues in your life that weren’t created by fear. You might not think that your financial or relationship challenges are rooted in fear. However, if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll probably realize that many of your obstacles are caused by your fears and your inability to deal with them in an appropriate way. 

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."

Some Examples of Fear

Fear Examples:

  • Relationship issues  : Fear of abandonment is a common fear. It’s also common to fear the loss of autonomy or freedom. Trust issues can also be fear-based. You might be afraid that you won’t be accepted fully.
  • Money issues : Many people deal with fear and anxiety by shopping, which can create debt. Some simply fear discomfort and are unable to let go of that expensive car or morning coffee. 
  • Procrastination:  Procrastination can be caused by fear of failure or the perceived discomfort of performing an unpleasant task. For example, you might fear you’re missing out on something exciting and check your email instead of working.
  • Stuck in a job you dislike: You might be afraid that no other decent jobs exist for you. You might be fearful of giving up your benefits or getting a new job that pays less. You might be afraid of going through the application process and competing for a better job. 


These are just a few examples. Consider the other parts of your life that are challenging. Can you see how fear is having a negative impact?

Fear is the most common cause of challenges in life. Learn to work through fear and gain the ability to make positive choices. You’ll boost your self-esteem and enjoy a happier life. Learn to embrace discomfort as a positive sign that your life is about to change for the better. Get started today!

About the Author Lee Stemm

I empower Women within Business and the Workplace to smash through any limiting-beliefs while applying the right strategic strategies to build a thriving online business or explore career advancement opportunities. To recognize your full potential and strengthen your inner-game to believe more and achieve more while making a positive impact aligned with your purpose and values. Be the Authentic Woman in Leadership within your business or in the workplace.

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